Proactive or Reactive.. choice is yours ;)

Each day you and I have about 100 chances to choose whether to be proactive or reactive. In any given day, the weather is bad, you can't find a job, your sibling irritates you with petty things, you loose an election at school, your friend talks behind your back, someone calls you names, your parents don't let you go out with friends on Saturday night (for no reason), your scooty gets towed, and you flunk a test. So what are you going to do about it? Are you in the habit of reacting to these kinds of everyday things, or are you proactive? The choice is yours. It really is. You don't have to respond the way everyone else does or the way people think you should.

How many times have you been driving down the road when suddenly somebody cuts in front of you, making you slam on your brakes? What do you do? Do you fly off at the mouth? Give them the bird? Let it ruin your day?
Or do you just let it go? Laugh about it. Move on.
The choice is yours.

Reactive people make choices based on impulse. They are like a can of soda pop. If life shakes them up a bit, the pressure builds and they suddenly explode.
"Hey, you stupid jerk! Get out of my lane !! "
Proactive people make choices based on values. They think before they act. They recognise they can't control everything that happens to them, but they can control what they do about it. Unlike reactive people who are full of carbonation, proactive people are like water. Shake them up all you want, take off the lid, and nothing. No fizzing, no bubbling, no pressure. They are calm, cool, and in control.
"I'm not going to let that guy get me upset and ruin my day."

Scene :
You overhear your best friend bad-mouthing you in front of a group. He/She doesn't know you have overheard the conversation. Just five minutes ago, this same friend was sweet talking to you to your face. You feel hurt and betrayed.

Reactive choices:

  • Tell him/her off. Then hit him/her.
  • Go into a deep depression because you feel so bad about what he/she said.
  • Decide that he/she is a two-faced liar and give her the silent treatment for 2 months.
  • Spread vicious rumours about her. After all, she did it to you.
Proactive choices:


  • Forgive her.
  • Confront her and calmly share how you feel.
  • Ignore it and give her a second chance. realize that she has a weakness just like you and that occasionally you talk behind his/her back without really meaning any harm.
Dedicated to,
all the teens , nearly everyone goes though this phase,
all my friends,
Choose your options wisely :),
Thank You for reading,
As usual from Hetansh Shah a.k.a Hetu :]

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